Forgiveness

Well, if you read my blog from yesterday, you already know that grudge holding is "poisonous" to your health. I know some of you may say that you would rather drink poison than to forgive the perpetrator of past abuse or pain.  Perhaps we need to clarify what forgiveness means.

Forgiveness does not mean that you condone what the person did; you are not saying that it was alright and you certainly would not allow them to do it to you again.  Forgiveness is for You not Them!  You don't even have to tell them that you are forgiving them; some of them may already be deceased by now.  It is very beneficial for your health and well being to be able to move forward after abusive or "unforgivable" treatment.  But how is this done? ("Easier said than done")

This is where judgment comes back into play; remember there is a fine line between judgment and acknowledging what you don't like and it is empathy.  This is the hardest time to practice this zen like attitude and it does take practice but it will be worth it in the end.  Chances are that you have some insight into why the person that "did you wrong" is the way they are; just as we are the way we are because of everything that has happened to us so far.  This is not an excuse, only a reason; we are all human and we are all responding to this life within our own capabilities.

We are all products of our childhoods and the experiences we have had thus far.  When you can finally forgive and move forward, you will finally be free.  Until then, you continue to give your power to the person that hurt you.  The ultimate action is to send them healing vibes and avoid them if you can.  If you are feeling "trapped" in an abusive relationship, that is another whole blog.  Maybe tomorrow.

Sending love and light to all.